Being the unreasonable friend!

Being the unreasonable friend.

Today I want to share a little about 2 really enlightening conversations I had all within the space of 2 hours with 2 friends that I adore.

It made me think about the qualities I love most about my inner circle of friends. The thing I value most about them and the one not negotiable they will always get from me, because they are my friend. It’s the skill of being the 'unreasonable friend'. Now I have absolutely used this term in regards to accountability and there is 💯 truth in surrounding ourselves with friends that will hold us to account.

My 'unreasonable' comes from not buying in, not adding fuel to their fire, instead offering objective, offering a different way to communicate or even helping them understand the other side.

Unreasonable friends don’t and shouldn’t agree with everything you think, feel, act. The most honorable ones will hold space, offer difference of opinion and most importantly hold space for their friend to move through what “in this moment” they are going through.

So, next time you are spending time with, or having a conversation with a friend in need, decide what kind of friend you are going to be.

The one that lets the fire breathe and eventually settle or the one that throws fuel on and makes it more than what it needs to be?

Unreasonable friends are ALWAYS the most honest. Clear is kind, even if we know it isn’t what they want to hear.

PS: This photo was taken of Kell and I in Canada. We were making Gnocchi (for the first time) for a really special dinner. It was a complete and total disaster and the result was what can only be described as burnt chips. (The learning I’ll share another time.)

An unreasonable friend would probably have told us to cook with confidence (which stopped pretty much after this pic) or in truth an unreasonable friend would have said…. get better at asking for help. Something I still need to remind myself to do.